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Anger is a fire that needs cooling; it is a wound that needs healing.

Author- Subhendu Bikash Tahal

The purpose of being a human is to attain Eudaimonia or happiness.  But the secret to happiness is shrouded in mystery.  Layers of wisdom, millions of books and thousands of Monks share the quickest ways to be happy, the shortcut to attain the divine mission. In contrast there are teeming millions who are suffering day in and out for various reasons.  Modern civilization is based on the premise that there is a causal relationship between happiness and increasing material well being. On the contrary the ancient wisdom tells us the doctrine of “happiness through asceticism”. In the light of these mutually contradicting ideas, which occur in pairs, human beings have been mired in the maze of confusion. To choose the best possible way to remove these worst nightmares of unhappiness seems like a distant dream- unsearchable, unattainable and even unimaginable.

Thich Nhat Hanh in his book  “Anger”  writes “ the most basic condition for happiness is freedom.” Here he doesn’t  not mean political freedom, but freedom from the mental formations of anger, despair, jealousy, and delusion. Anger is the most important of all reasons that lay at the back of a life that is led unhappily. A life led unhappily is a life un-led. Anger is a violent expression of emotion that wreaks havoc to self as well as others. It is characterized by antagonism for others. It is cyclonic. The cyclonic velocity of the wind, which emanates from anger, causes immense destruction to the mental health affecting happiness directly.  It is something that is squarely responsible for stress, trauma and mental imbalances.

Anger is an emotion. It is a reflection of pain. It is violent. It is destructive. But it is transparent. It reflects human fragility. It demonstrates our vulnerabilities. It is negative and positive too. History is a testimony to the events that have occurred because of human anger. Whether the American War of Independence or French revolution.  Whether the storming of Bastille or the Boston Tea party. Whether Sepoy Mutiny or Dandi March are all examples of anger channelized in the right direction against brutality and injustices. Anger in the colonial state against oppression brought the brutal British Empire down. But anger is not all that glamorous as I have portrayed or painted. That Anger in mass which brought the English down had lifted the Hitler up. On the one hand anger emancipated the masses from the suppression and oppression, on the other it emasculated them leading to their brutal killing in the Holocaust.  

Anger in mass has shaped the course of history. It revolutionized our ways and means of looking at things. But anger in an individual is always harmful. An angry individual is reactive. His imagination is clouded. His senses are paralyzed. His ties are broken. His past is wounded. His present frustrated and future worsened. There are so many triggers that trigger anger in an individual. An individual brought up in a climate of rife strife or wide spread conflict is more likely to spew the venom of anger in the latter years of his life. An individual’s socio-political or economic situation or his personal life may act as triggers. But whatever may be the reasons of the trigger, we must have to appreciate the fact that anger is a fire that needs cooling, it is a wound that needs healing.  

No one would ever like to be angry in the light of the irreparable damage that it causes, but one gets angry wittingly or unwittingly, for reasons that need to be grasped. His anger has to be tamed with love , sympathy and empathy not with the similar flame of fire. He needs love not hatred, compassion not indifference, positivity not negative energy.

The solution to suicide is structural overhauling

About the author- The author of this article Subhendu Bikash Tahal is a Gold medalist in BA(POL.SC) and currently pursuing Post-graduation in Political science at Utkal University, and has also qualified for Junior Research Fellowship(JRF) and eligibility for Assistant Professor in the National Eligibility Test(UGC-NET). 

Suicide is no less than a pestilence, it kills around 800 000 people annually,  The World Health Organization (WHO) reports that one life is lost to suicide every 40 seconds. Although people of all age groups are vulnerable to this consequence of mental illness, but it affects the most to the youth, the potential demography who can bring  dividend to their families and nation at large, are falling prey to the allurement of last resort. The death of Sushant Singh Rajput, Prakesh Meheta,  and now a  16 year old artist Siya kakar should compel the intellectual elite and policy makers in India to take this issue seriously.

Jermy Bentham in his finest work ‘the principle of morals and legislation’ writes “Nature has placed mankind under the governance of two sovereign masters, pain and pleasure”; we seek pleasure, accept it with exhilaration but want to avoid pain, when the pain outweighs the pleasure, when it becomes intolerable, one finds the easy option of killing herself.  However, suicide should never be treated as escapism , it is not that someone  escaped from the brute realities of life by committing suicide, rather, the brute realities of life  subsided the individual underneath its heavy weight and the excruciating pain that resulted from it, caused tremendous mental agony breaking the individual into pieces, forcing her to claim the most precious of everything that is her life.

In Shakespeare’s Hamlet,  Gertrude- mother of Hamlet(the tragic hero), narrated about the death of Ophelia. Ophelia, the beloved of Hamlet, a teen age girl, crumbled under the weight of psychological pressure and committed suicide. Suicide thus exposes the vulnerabilities of being a human, the extent of emotional fragility, the need of love, compassion,  honour, hope, status, meaning, pride and forgiveness.  Suicide also exposes the meaninglessness of wealth, property, opulence, and the difficulty of getting the message across. It is a malady, we all are vulnerable to, particularly the youths. Leaving behind the trails of age old belief system, which  for every success or failure made the fate responsible, as Society travels on the upward trajectory of development, it gradually places the individual at the centre of her failure and success; the anthropocentricism, of which the meritocratic order is a reflection of, burdens the individual with the fear of failure because of her own frailty, resulting in frustration, anxiety, and depression.

Death of Ophelia

Suicide is not a simple isolated event that can be understood in silos, rather it is a part of complex socio-political reality, a product of social, political and economic arrangement. Liberalism, the guiding idea which drives the nation states today, places competition at the heart of its socio-economic arrangement, it pushes the idea of competition to seep into the minds of every individual, then creates an illusion of meritocracy. In the name of merit liberalism has helped the privileges to perpetuate their power and authority; meritocracy is a mere deception which helps the intellectually bankrupt liberalism to sustain itself as a set of ideas.

In fact why someone commits suicide? What is the relation between the political-economic arrangement and suicide? One individual commits suicide when she can’t ascribe the reason of her failure to her social, political or economic circumstances and finds herself the sole reason for all the failure and wrongs that occurred to her. Liberalism, as a set of ideas, gives priority to individual efforts, makes individual the sole author of her happiness and sorrows alike, forgetting how the structures of society impacts individual efforts and the consequence thereby.

To illustrate this, take the example of two individuals one from Bombay and other from Bihar, the individual from Bihar took birth in a rustic circumstance, from parents who are poor, unable to provide the sophisticated private education; in contrast, the individual who took birth in Bombay,  got admission in the famous private school  by virtue of her parents’ lavish salary. But both the individuals have been hardworking and dedicated , now imagine in the liberal framework they have been left to compete, who would achieve the most out of it, who would succeed at the end- the one who can afford everything or the one who can’t afford even the cost to pay his college? Is it a fair competition?  Both worked hard, but the result would always  favour the privilege;  the so called looser,  in the competition without understanding the

structural constraints that don’t allow her to a fair competition for upward mobility, attributes the reason for her failure to no one but to herself, then with lost hope, the anxiety that develops compels her to commit suicide. This competition is not limited to high class vs low class, even within the highest echelon of economic strata the competition for supremacy, self worth and domination takes place and once again the looser out of anxiety decides to close the chapter of her life.  

Suicide is the inevitable result of an egoistic and competitive mindset, which judge every phenomenon on the scale of success or failure, whether failure in examination or failure to get your beloved attracted toward yourself, everything is judged on the binary of success and failure.  When someone fails, she commits suicide as a permanent solution to the temporary problem of mental trauma. One commits suicide  when she fears to face the fear, the fear of failure, the fear of loosing something or someone.

Suicide is less a psychological phenomenon, more a structural reality, the twin factors of competition and fear, push an individual to claim her life. The solution to the problem is not merely mental counselling   but structural overhauling. A society that perpetuates the idea of competition through an ideology is bound to face its negative consequences,  the replacement of competition with the benevolent cooperation is a way forward which will go a long way to remove the malice of mental trauma.